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What are the 5 Conflict Management Styles

What are the 5 Conflict Management Styles

Mar 7, 2013

Ever wonder about how many people fight? In this article we decided to break down a thing or two and let you know how most people tend take on or aviod fights. This applies to anywhere, your family, work place, you name the location it is there.

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Conflict Resolution In The Work Place

Conflict Resolution In The Work Place

Mar 7, 2013

Cindy has been running her own business for years now. She had a few more thoughts she wanted to share on how to resolve a conflict. Take it away Cindy!

People’s conflict management styles tend to mesh over time, and to solve conflict a “right” way emerges. It is best to recognize when this style can be used effectively. Make sure that it is understood by all that different styles may suit different situations.

Look at the situation and figure out which style is appropriate. There are steps below that you can use to help resolve the conflict:

4 Tips to Solving Marital Conflict

4 Tips to Solving Marital Conflict

Jul 30, 2014

Marital conflict comes in many forms, whether it is a disagreement over how the children are got ready for school each day or about how the finances are dealt with. What is clear from my experience is that most of these conflicts can be resolved before they end in divorce. Unfortunately, some couples simply don’t know how to deal with conflict and things just get worse.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment and problems should be dealt with, head on if necessary, in order to preserve that commitment. The problems arise when one party is a problem solver and the other prefers to bury their head in the sand.

I have come up with four ways for a couple to deal with marital conflict, avoiding the divorce courts if they can:

  • Marriage Should Be A Safe Place

Marriage should be a haven where both parties feel that they can talk about anything. If your partner wants to talk about something, never come back with put downs or lose your temper. It just undermines the building blocks of that safe place.

  • See Things From the Other Side

Try to see things from both sides not just your own. The only way you can deal with a situation is with all the facts at hand, not just half of them. Coins have two sides, without that they wouldn’t be complete and neither is a problem.

  • Listen

Learn to listen. Hear beyond what is being said not just the words.  Most conflicts consist of a defensive and an offensive position.  Make sure you know how to listen to what is being said before you go on the offence or defense – it could change your whole position

  • Admit When You Are Wrong

Some people see the ultimate prize as being the winner. They will stop at nothing to come out on top regardless of the damage that is done in the process. Learn to know when you are wrong and, more importantly, learn to admit it.  There is no shame in admitting you made a mistake and it can actually promote a more positive feeling within the marriage.  I know this sounds a bit corny but make sure you follow up your admission with flowers, especially if you are a man. Choose a professional company for flower delivery in Adelaide, and it will make all the difference.

How UNICEF Helps Children of War Refugees

How UNICEF Helps Children of War Refugees

Jul 30, 2014

Over the years, UNICEF has proven to be an effective arm of the United Nations especially in programs that deal with children and looking after their welfare. There are lots of programs that have been implemented with millions of children who have benefited from them. Until now, these programs are in place covering more children. Among the most important programs implemented by this organization is the Global Parent project.

The Recipients of Global Parent

Anyone can take part in this program. If you are committed in helping children, then you can be a global parent. You just have to promise donating a certain amount of money on a monthly basis to help those who are in need. Among the recipients of this program are children who are considered as war refugees. They are those who flee their country fearing for their lives and safety.

Being a war refugee is never easy. It is not just a physical challenge, but an emotional one as well. For children who have been affected by war, it will be a lifelong scar that will affect them. Therefore, they have to feel that the world is a better place to live after all. They need to realize that there are people out there who do not want to kill them. Instead, they are given the kind of help they deserve. By committing to this program, you can help UNICEF help these children. The amount of money that you donate each month will definitely go a long way.

Happiness is Priceless

Whether or not you receive a huge salary as long as you are committed to help these children, then you will do everything to stay true to your promise. After all, the happiness that you will give these children is priceless. For sure, they will remember your goodness forever. You might not have met them personally, but wherever they may be, you know that you have been a good parent to them.

If you are interested to know more about this organization and the programs that they have to reach out to children, you can check out the official UNICEF website here.

A Burning Question

A Burning Question

Jul 27, 2014

Now, you wouldn’t think a curling iron could be classed as a dangerous product would you.  Normally it isn’t, especially if it is used right but, just recently, the number of claims against salons for injuries caused by these devices has started to rise.  I haven’t had any cases myself but, just to be prepared, I thought I would do a little research into the matter.

Burning Smells

There have been a large number of women who claim that the curling irons their salon uses has caused their hair to burn.  This is perfectly possible but only under three circumstances:

  1. The equipment was faulty
  2. The handler was inexperienced or got distracted
  3. The equipment used was cheap and substandard

As a lawyer, it would be my job to figure out which one of these reasons caused the injury – not an easy job I can tell you!  Out of interest, I checked out the equipment that a number of salons were using and I was quite surprised to find that many are using the cheapest irons they can get their hands on while charging the client top dollar.  A word of advice to any salon that is reading this – check out these reviews of the best curling iron and get your equipment updated – court cases are expensive compared to the cost of buying decent equipment.

Do It Yourself

If the equipment the salon uses is faulty then they and you have a claim against the manufacturers. Often, the salon will offer you a full refund and will go some way to putting your hair right free of charge. Unless the burn is serious, in effect, if you accept their offer that ends any claim you may have against the salon.

The cheapest option – and the safest if you know how to use them – is to do it yourself. Purchase your own curling wand. That way, if any problems arise you have a claim directly against the manufacturer of the product if it is faulty in any way.

The best way to avoid all the hassle of court cases and clams against people is to buy decent equipment in the first place.  This website has some great information on the best curling wand to buy, leaving you assured that you are purchasing quality equipment.

The Problem of Standing Too Long at Work

The Problem of Standing Too Long at Work

Jul 25, 2014

Prolonged hours of standing have long been an issue in the workplace. This method or system, most commonly practiced in factory settings, boomed during the Industrial Revolution. Factories have long required their workers to stand for faster production. In the United Kingdom, this practice had caused severe health problems to workers during the World War I. This sparked lobbyists to push for more seats for jobs that can be conducted while sitting.

Who Are Most Affected?

This problem is most common for assembly line workers, retail store employees, waiting staff, teachers, security workers, healthcare practitioners, flight attendants, and others. Most of the affected employees work in lower-paying jobs. In the UK alone, more than 11 million UK workers are at risk of illnesses caused by prolonged standing.

What are the Health Implications?

Standing for too long primarily impacts lower limbs, muscles, and blood vessels. It puts tremendous pressure on hip, knee, and ankle joints that may cause chronic injury. This pressure may cause feet deformations like flat feet and heel spurs. Patients also experience more severe back pain than those who do not experience prolonged standing.

Those who are affected often complain of symptoms such as swelling feet, aching muscles, tiredness, and discomfort. They may even develop varicose and spider veins. These conditions are caused by weakened blood vessels due to too much pressure. Weakened blood vessels can’t pump blood back up to the heart so blood stays in the vessels, causing them to twist and swell.

Unsightly veins can be a huge problem especially for women since they are the ones most affected by it. The increasing number of patients led to an increase in the clinics offering treatments. One such clinic is Soffer Health Institute which offers spider vein treatment in Miami. Another clinic performs sclerotherapy, the best spider vein treatment in Trenton.

But perhaps the most serious health effect of standing too long is the worsening of a pre-existing coronary heart disease.

What is the Solution?

Contrary to popular belief, constant sitting is not the answer to this problem. In fact, studies have shown that prolonged sitting in an office negatively affects health, too. The safest solution, therefore, is to avoid staying in one working position throughout the shift. Instead, workers should stand, sit, move around, and even lie down once in a while. Tasks should be altered and be more varied to avoid other musculoskeletal problems (e.g. carpal tunnel syndrome).

Working desks should also be adjustable in height so that workers can change postures and relax their body a bit if they feel muscle tensions. Chairs should also be adjustable, movable, and comfortable. Employers should also provide more flexible and timely rest breaks.

Providing these options for employees are the latter’s right and not a privilege. Unions can push for these reforms, and if the employers do not comply, they can take it to court. Every country has a specific law with provisions for workplace hazards. In the United States, rights of employees are covered by the Occupational Safety and Health Act. 

Dealing with Debt and Divorce

Dealing with Debt and Divorce

Jul 21, 2014

Divorce is one of the most stressful situations on earth, made even worse by the addition of debt.  Debt is something that cannot be passed off onto the other party and, while the agreement in a divorce may dictate which party is responsible for paying it, it doesn’t have any say in whose credit score is on the line.

Divorce Doesn’t Change Debt

So many people believe that a divorce will have an effect on debt, especially loans taken together. The courts may order one party to pay the debt but that does not change the ownership f=of the debt, at least, not where the lender is concerned.

As a rule, joint personal loans require the credit scores of both parties. If one partner has a not so good score, some lenders require a joint loan as security. In the eyes of the lender, that makes both people responsible.

In that situation, in the event of divorce, the lenders will report defaults on both parties, not just the one whom the court has made responsible for payment.

Take this example – a woman is charged by the court to pay off a joint personal loan.  If she defaults, her ex-husband’s credit score will be affected as well. He may want to consider taking on the loan repayments himself to save his own credit score.

Change in Personal Details Means Nothing

There are those who think that, if they change their name and move, they will be exempt from paying off their debts. This doesn’t work. Lenders will still go after both parties, regardless of any changes to personal information.

The easiest way to sort out any issues is keep in constant contact with the personal loan lender. Keep them informed of all changes to circumstances as they arise, not when it’s too late.  To repair any issues with poor credit, each party should pay off their loans and establish credit in their own personal names.

I see many divorce cases where debt is one of the main problems and the only advice I can give is to keep up the repayments – both parties – until the debt is satisfied. If necessary, even if you are not the party charged by the court to pay the debt, to protect your own name, it may be best to make the repayments yourself.

Why Married Couples Should Take a Vacation Together

Why Married Couples Should Take a Vacation Together

Jul 19, 2014

During the early years of most relationships, couples are head over heels with each other. However, after years of marriage, a number of kids and the stress that the family life brings, that spark could start fading away. Because of the different problems they face in their married life, many couples resort to getting a divorce. While this may be the best solution for others, there are things that couples can do to help save their relationship. One of these is spending time together by taking a vacation and this means taking a trip without the kids. Here are some of the reasons why married couples should consider this.

Have Time with Each Other

One of the most common problems that married couples often face is their lack of time. They may be busy with work, the kids, household chores and other activities that make it difficult to spend quality time together. By taking a vacation without the kids, they can focus on each other and have that much needed quality time. Of course, they need to make sure that there would be someone trustworthy looking after the kids while they’re away like relatives or close friends.

Explore New Things Together

Experiencing and exploring new things together is fun and exciting. This could spice up the relationship as the couple enjoys doing things that they’ve never done and seeing places that they’ve never seen before. These memorable experiences can bring the spark back in the relationship.

Reconnect with Each Other

As the couple spend time together and connect deeper with each other, they’ll be able to reconnect both emotionally and physically. Since they’re in a more relaxed state and they feel good about everything, they’ll also feel more romantic and they’ll have sweet moments with their partner again like when the relationship was still new.

There are several beautiful places to visit around the world. One of the most popular romantic getaways that couples could travel is Europe. Europe tours offer different activities and destinations and they also last for varying days. There’s something for every couple including those who love nature and beaches and those who would like to explore the culture of the place.

Dealing with Divorce – Division of Assets

Dealing with Divorce – Division of Assets

Jul 9, 2014

Many of the cases that come across my desk are, sadly, divorce.  And, while each cases is different, there are some things that remain the same and one of these is division of assets and belongings.

Today, instead of focusing on a particular case, I want to give you a few tips on how to deal with dividing the household following a divorce.

  • Impulse Trashing is Not The Way To Go

After a divorce, the impulse is there to trash anything and everything that reminds you of him or her. Before you do that, take a step back and cool off a bit. Get away from the house and everything that reminds you of your relationship.  Go and see friends or just go off for a walk for a while and clear your head, try to think rationally.

Although it is easier said than done, you should try to disassociate emotions from objects and, perhaps one day, when everything has settled down, you will be glad you didn’t throw away everything.

  • Create an Inventory

When things – and you – have cooled off a bit, go through everything in the house objectively.  Sort out what is yours, what is theirs and what is jointly owned.  Photograph everything that is owned together and then try to agree a price or a fair division of those assets. 

If any of the items are of a high value then both of you should ask independent valuers to put a price on it.  If you can’t agree who has what, simply agree to sell and split the proceeds half and half. 

  • Downsize

Sometimes, divorce means moving to a smaller place or, if you are waiting for things to be sorted out, moving in with friends or family for a while.  Now is the time to have a good sort out – throw out what you definitely do not need any more and store anything else except for essential items in mobile storage containers, like these ones.

Make sure you take a full inventory of the storage unit – photograph and list everything and makes sure you only store what is actually yours.  If there are joint items that your ex-partner has agreed you can keep, place them in there as well but make sure you get the agreement in writing. 

  • Keep Copies of all Important Paperwork and Documents

Once you and your partner are set on the route to divorce, you should take copies of any important documents. These include:

  • Birth and marriage certificates
  • House deeds
  • Tax returns
  • Prenuptial agreements
  • Anything that you or your ex-partner has put in writing relating to the divorce and/or division of assets

Make sure you store all of these copies in a safe place – preferably leave a set with your attorney and keep another set stored with a close friend or family member – one that you can trust.

You can also think about using self storage – more information here – to keep things like paperwork and valuables safe until after the divorce is finalized.

While these tips will not make the divorce any easier to bear, they will safeguard things while it is ongoing.

Dumpster Dispute

Dumpster Dispute

Jul 5, 2014

I had a rather interesting case arrive on my desk a few months ago, one that is now, thankfully, resolved.  A large company that I shall not name has two directors that, for the sake of this I will call John and George.  Both have equal shares in the company.

The directors had decided that they needed to expand their premises and had settled a moving date based on the purchase finalisation of their new building. Unfortunately, John was away on his holidays over this period and the dates could not be changed.

Clearing Out

While John was away, George began the task of getting ready for the move and looked into dumpster rentals, using this company to get them a great deal.  The dumpster was delivered and the clearing out began. As you can imagine, with a large company, there was a lot of stuff to move and a lot of stuff to get rid of.  Nevertheless, the move went smoothly and, by the time John returned from his holidays, everyone was settled at the new place.

Dispute

When the bill for the dumpster rental arrived on John’s desk, he queried it.  George explained why he had hired one and that this was the best company he found to do the job.  John disagreed, saying that, a) there shouldn’t have been any need for a dumpster rental and, b) George should have got his permission before doing it.

Now, strictly speaking, that last part is true – as both directors hold equal shares in the company, everything, especially that which involves spending money should be cleared by both parties.  However, this isn’t the fault of the dumpster rental company and they wanted their money, which, by law, they are entitled to.

However, John refused to authorise the payment and, after lengthy correspondence, the dumpster rental company contacted me for assistance. By rights, they have the law on their side and could, by their own terms and conditions, go straight to a court of law to recover the money. However, they opted to go down a different route first to see if they could resolve the dispute without things turning too nasty.

All’s well that Ends Well

After long discussions with both directors, I pointed out that both were at fault.  George should have got authorisation from John, before he left for his holiday, to hire a dumpster for the removal.  John should accept that he was not around for the hard part – the clearing out and actual move and, as the dumpster was hired in good faith, it should be paid for. I also pointed out that, should the bill remain unpaid, the rental company had good cause to refer the matter to a court of law – after all, they provided a service and it should be paid for.

Eventually, the matter was settled, with payment in full of the rental bill.  Whether the two directors will ever see eye to eye again is another matter and not one for me to worry about – unless one of them ends up as my client for something!

On another note, the website they used to find their rental company also covers a range of other services – you can find out all you need to know here, at this website.

How to Trim Down Expenses When Putting Up a Business Office

Small businesses often rent office spaces due to a lack of capital to build their own office space. Renting might seem impractical to some because it can be expensive and you don’t own the building, but since your business is new and striving to grow, it is one of the best options for your new business.

How to cut down expenses is one of the major problems faced by new businesses. Doing it on a trial and error basis is quite risky and might result in a huge expense rather than savings.

Therefore, here are some effective ways of trimming down the expenses in putting up a business office:

  • If the business does not really have to have an office, then don’t get one. Most small businesses today operate from home, where communication facilities and computers are the only things needed.
  • Do not invest in brand-new and expensive office equipment. Desks, chairs, computers, stationeries, and other office equipment are surely a necessity, but purchasing the expensive ones is not necessary. There are second-hand equipment that are being sold in bulk. They usually belong to another company that decided to upgrade their equipment, or it may come from unsuccessful businesses that decided to close.
  • If the main office will also serve as a receiving area for clients and other partners, then renting a commercial space is a great option. Commercial areas are great because it makes it easier for the clients to check and visit the office; however, they are also expensive. To get an idea of how much office space will run you, look at a few metropolitan areas to get a general sense of how much you’ll need to spend. For example, check out these office rentals in Chicago for Chicago office space costs. You’ll be able to review an entire spectrum of properties and be able to find one that meets your needs.
  • Office spaces do not always have to be in a commercial area. These days, practical business-owners look for places where office spaces are not really common. If the office is needed only for internal works, try renting a space similar to an office, like a dance studio. It may take a lot of time to spruce up the area, but it will definitely save a lot of money.

There is nothing wrong with aiming for a business office of your own. But of course, you should consider your operating budget first. The smooth and efficient conduct of your business and how to make it grow bigger are what matters the most at this stage, rather than the physical office that will only cost a lot of money.

Resolving a Conflict with a Neighbor

Resolving a Conflict with a Neighbor

Jun 26, 2014

Having adjacent houses or living in close proximity with another family is not a guarantee of being able to get along well. There are several documented cases where next-door neighbors, who are expected to live peaceably with one another, have engaged in conflicts where the courts needed to get involved. However, not every conflict ends up in the justice system. There are ways by which neighborhood problems can be resolved without the need of mediation by the authorities.

As far as conflicts are concerned, the old adage, “An ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure,” certainly applies. Conflicts are best avoided in the first place because the costs of getting involved in one can get quite substantial. Regardless of the severity of a conflict, it is always taxing to your emotions and can be a cause for much stress. For more serious cases, you might need to hire the services of a legal professional. For instance, if you are at the receiving end of a criminal complaint by a neighbor, you would have to pay for a good lawyer that specializes on cases such as the Tulsa criminal defense attorney on this site. Considering the financial and emotional costs, conflicts are best nipped in the bud.

Good diplomacy has its rewards. Find a convenient time and place to discuss the problem with your neighbor. According to experts, people are sometimes unaware that their actions are causing a negative impact; thus, the first step is making him aware that what he is doing is creating a problem for you and your family. When preparing for a discussion, be prepared for a defensive reaction or the possibility of getting an angry remark. If this happens, keep calm and composed, and respond sympathetically.

If the friendly discussion does not provide satisfactory results, you can opt to inform your neighbor in writing about the problem. You can also cite laws if they are relevant. If there are other neighbors that are affected by his actions, you can request them to sign the letter as well. A collective action might better persuade a misbehaving neighbor to mend his ways.

If the first two recommended methods fail, you can choose to have a neutral third party mediate in the conflict. Mediation can be effective in having a more open communication line. You can check if there is a volunteer mediator in your community whom you can request to mediate for free or for a minimal charge. Alternatively, you can engage the services of a lawyer as a private mediator for a higher fee.

After going through the prior steps and the conflict still exists, then maybe it is the right time to take your case to court. Note, however, that litigation should be the final resort. It is an expensive process and you never know what the outcome is because the final decision rests on the judge.

The way you act and behave affects people around you and this includes your neighbors. If you want to avoid conflict, then you have to be a responsible neighbor in the first place. If conflicts do arise owing to the inconsiderate behavior of a neighbor, you need to settle it as amicably as possible. Through this, you can maintain the peace of mind that you need in your home.