You’ve probably heard people say before how you have to balance family life and work life. But what does that even mean? Is there some scale to measure these abstract concepts on, and how hard do you have to work to make sure they are even?
But it’s not about keeping them even. What it really boils down to is making sure that one doesn’t consume so much of your time and attention that the other one suffers.
The first way you’ll have to start this process of “balancing’ is by getting your priorities in order. Are work and family your most important priorities? Maybe you have hobbies or interests outside of the big two. And that’s fine, but you want to make they are not what is causing your family time and work productivity to suffer.
For example, a lot of people like to go drinking after work. Now you may say it is your work that is cutting into family time, but if you’re spending all night out with your friends because you need that drink, then it’s probably not work that’s taking top spot.
You could examine the things you are doing- look at where you are spending your time. You can write down an estimate of how much time each day or each week you spend doing various things. If you’re truthful with yourself when you make this list, you’ll probably find some ways to shave some time off here or there. It’s great to have hobbies and such that you enjoy, but when you let them get in the way of what’s important, then maybe it’s time to make some changes.
Fighting the Stress
One thing that really gets us in a bad mood is stress. It affects some people much worse than others and for a variety of reasons. When we let that stress get to us, it can mess with our productivity and our enjoyment of our leisure time. You’re not going to be having much fun with your family if you are constantly stressing out about things you can change.
And those are the big ones- the things you can make a difference with. If you know you have a problem and you could make it go away, then it can really cause you stress. One of the major stress-inducers is weight gain. It doesn’t matter when you put it on; lots of people feel conscious about the weight they have gained since they were younger.
You might mentally chastise yourself for time you could be spending at the gym, and instead you’re doing something unhealthy. But you don’t have to go to the gym to get rid of the pounds. There are actually weight loss supplements out there, like Garcinia Cambogia (more information at www.garciniacambogia.com.au) which can help you get rid of pounds without a lot of strenuous exercise from you. Do your research and see what you can do to get the figure you want without having to change your life around.
Dealing with the Issues
You know what really throws life and work out of balance?
As a divorce lawyer, I see a lot of this happen at the family level.When you don’t get along with a family member or a co-worker or you just hate something about your home or your job, then of course you’re going to be spending more time where you enjoy yourself.
If your spouse annoys you (and that’s okay; it’s quite common) then you may find yourself spending inordinate amounts of time at work, volunteering for longer hours or just spending a little extra time away from home before and after work.
When you do that, you’re not only making things worse back at home, but you’re avoiding the issue. You have to deal with your issues if you want them to get better. Yes, they could improve on their own. Maybe your spouse will finally come around to your way of thinking. But overwhelmingly, it doesn’t work like that. If you want things to change, then you have to cause them to change.
But take your time looking at the problem. The bigger the problem is, the more thought it requires. You don’t want to use a knee-jerk reaction and say something you’ll regret. When you have conflict, you need to think about the results of your actions. It may feel good for a moment to let out an angry word or say something mean, but will it help the situation?
Are you ready to bring balance to your family and work lives? It starts with you. Maybe it is your boss’s fault that you hate going to work, and maybe your spouse is the reason you don’t like to spend too much time at home. But these are just sources of conflict, and they can be resolved.